Healing in process

Healing is tough.  When something or someone comes at you and just rips through your spirit, it’s hard to come back from it. The pain is real.  It takes time. Some people say “Just get over it”  

I say, “Get through it.”  Push through it. Healing is a process.  To heal you must keep moving.  Go through it and come out on the other end stronger, and more aware. Aware of who you are and who you choose to be.  

You will emerge with greater wisdom.  Wise enough not to let yourself be in that position again.  Wiser in that you recognize and move away from toxic people. Wiser in choosing what you let rock your world and what you let bounce off. 

You are in control.  It may not feel that way immediately but in time you can decide and tell yourself, “I’m going to let this go and I’m not going to allow this hurt and negativity to grow in me.”  

Don’t let the pain take hold of you.  Release it into the atmosphere. Yell, scream, cry, talk it out, write it out or pray it out. Whatever works for you to be done with it and move on. 

Whatever doesn’t serve you must go.  Release the pain and allow yourself permission to heal. 

My Autumn Is Here

You know my blogs are about whatever is on my mind at the time. As the title “Off the Top” should convey. Tonight, my mind keeps coming back to one subject. Though I am not a healthcare provider or professional, nor am I in the medical field, I can’t get the subject of healthcare out of my mind.  

While interviewing so many people in healthcare, I am learning that everything is not what we assume it to be.  We trust our doctors because they are committed to the field of medicine and have a passion for healing people.  They have a desire to provide care and improve the well-being of others. They are knowledgeable and undergo extensive training and education to diagnose and treat their patients. Nevertheless as  I interview one doctor after another, I learn something new that I never heard of before.  Not complicated, not far-fetched, just new to my ears. 

I learned about some symptoms that are overlooked.  There are some treatments that are not offered and there are some tests that are not presented to everyone. 

Doctors are diagnosing people with pre-diabetes: Pre-diabetes is a condition where blood sugar levels are higher than normal but not high enough to be diagnosed as type 2 diabetes.  Yet it’s the precursor to type 2 diabetes.  And many doctors tell you to lose weight, watch your carbs, reduce your sugar intake and we’ll see you in 6 months. Doctors should be clear that it’s imperative for you to change your lifestyle and recommend a nutritionist.  

We must educate ourselves, seek information and have our questions ready for the doctor. Do your own research. Ask about the possible solutions or remedies that you have heard of.  No question is wrong when it comes to your health. It may annoy the doctor but it’s your health. They have a wealth of medical information to offer even if they don’t initiate it. Be an advocate for your health. Especially if you’re a woman. 

Women, especially black women are misdiagnosed 20 – 30% more than white men. Which has resulted in serious illnesses and even death. 

There are so many things that have been missed in my personal experience with my mom , my children and with me. If I knew what I know now I would have asked more questions.  

Doctors are human so they are flawed just like us.  Help them be better and challenge them to give you more information.  And don’t feel bad about getting a second opinion. It may confirm their diagnosis and put you at ease.

As we know there are no absolutes or one pill that fits all in healthcare. What works for one may not work for the other.

My point is not to downgrade doctors, my point is that we need to be advoc

ates for ourselves. We need to go to the doctor with clear descriptions of our symptoms. Write it down prior to our appointment. We need to make ourselves aware of the things that will happen in our lives at different stages and ages. We need to adopt a lifestyle of wellness. We must realize that a sedentary life equals an unhealthy life.  We need to get moving. Monitor your medicines. If they are not working, let the doctor know. Trust your gut and use your common sense. Only you know what you are feeling. 

Doctors’ intentions are good, but the healthcare system has changed.  They are limiting the time that doctors spend with their patients. If you go to your doctor with multiple problems, how are they going to thoroughly address them in 15 minutes?

Through this “Autumn is Here” journey I’m learning a lot. There are many things I wish I would have known before but… I know them now. My eyes are open. My autumn is truly here.

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day to all the caregivers who had to reverse rolls and became a mother to their parent.

That's a tough role to take on but it's filled with love and experiences that you will share together and remember forever. 

Because she was so caring, and loving to you is why you stood with her and held her down through one of the most trying times of her life. Blessings to you.

Some people are still holding things together for their mom. I just want to say to them, "hold on". What you are giving will come back to you. It's a huge sacrifice but dont worry. God's got you. 

So on this Mother's day please know,  

we see you,  we support you, we're praying for you and  we're here for you.

 A Mother's love never dies it transcends.

Happy Mother's day.

Love you all. Autumn is Here.❤️