Caregiver Awareness

Many people don’t realize that they are caregivers.  They step up to help their parents, grandparent, spouse or friend and they don’t realize that they are now a caregiver.  A caregiver is someone who directly assists someone who no longer can fully care for themselves. It’s not defined by a specific service, or hours, or living arrangement.  It doesn’t matter what role you play or what type of care you give.  You can care for someone from long distance.  If you are making sure they have the help they need nearby, paying their bills online, ordering groceries, scheduling their doctors’ appointments or arranging travel, you are their caregiver. 

So now that you know what it is, are you a caregiver?  

If you’re a caregiver. It’s important to identify yourself with the word. If you don’t, you may be overlooking support that you can get. You may not be familiar with all that it takes to be a caregiver and all the tools or skills you need, until you get overwhelmed. If you identify as a caregiver and accept your role you, it may be easier for you to plan.   Knowing what to expect may lessen the anxiety, the worry and frustration that may await you.

Remember caregiving is work.  A little or a lot, it’s work. It is also  unpredictable.  It’s different for everyone. It doesn’t stay the same for the full duration. Be prepared for  the changes in care as you go along. Your loved one may change medically, physical, or emotionally.

Either way you’re going to have to adapt your life to the changes. You may have to do things that you never imagined doing, like cleaning poop or bathing your parents or friend. Some responsibilities may be uncomfortable but remember you have to do what you have to do for the well being of your person.

Identifying as a caregiver will empower you to share and explain what’s expected of you, to your partner and family. It’s better that they understand the responsibility you have.  It's important to discuss how it may impact your relationship.  You never know, your partner or family member may be a big help. 

There’s no shame in being a caregiver, no matter what the situation is. Look at it as an honor to help someone. Remember, if you’re ever in need maybe someone will do the same for you.